A funny thing happened on my trip to the Restroom….

After my workout today, I stopped in the restroom at the gym. To understand what I’m about to tell you you need to realize that the walls of the bathroom are covered in chalk paint and notes from members of the gym, owners of the gym, coaches of the gym, etc. While I was in the restroom trying to read all the things (which is impossible by the way) I noticed one phrase that stuck out. you can’t heal a body that you hate. As I left the gym those words kept replaying in my head. “You can’t heal a body that you hate” I sat in my car and just cried a little bit because that’s what I’ve been doing. Hating my body. For years I’ve poisoned my body. I’ve not used my body properly. I’ve ignored my body when it was telling me something was wrong. I’ve hated it because of things that have happened to it and things that I’ve done to it. That one phrase among many changed something in me.

So somewhere between liberty Road and my apartment, I promised myself that I would start loving my body. I would start fueling it instead of punishing it. I would start pushing it to do stronger things. Start listening to it instead of ignoring it. I would use it to do things that I love and by the time I opened my door I had way more self-love than when I had left that same spot earlier. It also confirms that I have found the right people to be on this journey with.

Sweaty at 6:30 am, yes please!

I have no idea who wrote that on the wall. But I’m forever grateful that they did.

There is so much more to it…

I lost my dad 10 years ago. He had quite a few heart issues and let’s just say we all grew up eating lots of deep fried things. One of my biggest reasons for taking back control of my health is that I want to be here, to bug my kids, much longer than my dad was.

While weight loss is definitely on my list it isn’t the only reason I’ve started the health and wellness journey. On this Wellness Wednesday I wanted to share a few of my reasons for my journey and what I’ve already been noticing about my body.

1. Improved mental health.

Since I’ve started this journey, my patience has vastly improved. Having that outlet for my energy allows me to take a moment when something difficult is placed in my path. I’ve been laughing more and just generally enjoying things. Like Elle Woods once said, “ exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy “

2. Increase bone density

Studies show that as we age maintaining bone health becomes increasingly important to prevent conditions like osteoporosis. Strength training helps those bones get stronger and denser overtime. My goal is to not break my hip folks. That’s the goal!

3. Enhance Joint Mobility

Strengthening muscles around your joints, provides better support and stability. One of the things that I’ve noticed since I started training is my knees hurt way less than they did before and I’m able to maneuver maneuver stairs with much more grace. (Just call me Cinderella)

4. Increased functional strength.

One of my big reasons for strength training is that I want to be as independent as I can for as long as I can. While getting stronger looks really nice the ability to stay active when I am older is the ultimate goal

5. Better sleep quality.

Since I’ve started working out regularly I’m sleeping better than I ever have before. I go to sleep faster and less time in my head before drifting off to dreamland. Now if I can just get my daughter to go to bed on time.

Even if weight loss isn’t on the top of your list, strength training gives you so much more. If you would like to book a discovery session with SOL Fitness just follow the link below.

https://solfitnesslex.com/

Creativity and Cuisine

Creativity and cuisine and art and appetizers tour.

Arts connect Lexington recently invited me on their Arts and Apps Tour. This unique experience seamlessly blended the world of art with the world of culinary delights. It was a sensory journey for both the eyes and the tastebuds.

The tour began in The Artist Attic with some delicious bites and a beautiful collection of art. The Artist Attic houses several different artist and they each bring something special to the space. The tour has carefully curated selections of galleries and studios, each showcasing the diverse talent and some of the amazing artist here in Lexington. Guided by knowledgeable hosts, we learned about the history behind each piece and some of the techniques used to bring them to life.

A delicious start to the tour.

Just one of the amazing spaces in The Artist Attic.

As our artistic journey came to a close we were treated to a selection of amazing appetizers and refreshments at the lockbox at 21C.

Some of the amazing art at 21c hotel and Gallery

So delicious.

The arts and tour was an experience that invited us to admire art and savor cuisine while deepening our connection to creativity and our community. If you would like more information or would like to schedule a tour please visit https://www.artsconnectlex.org/art-walk.html

Some Things you Can’t do on Your own

In the journey toward optimal health and wellness, we often champion self-reliance and independence. While these qualities are valuable, there are certain aspects of health and wellness that simply cannot be tackled alone. In a world where self-help and DIY solutions abound, it’s important to recognize when it’s time to seek help from professionals or enlist the support of others.

I had reached a point where I knew I needed help. I was feeling miserable and exhausted every day. I also weighed more than I ever had in my life!

First stop was to my primary care provider. We chatted. Ordered some labs. Talked about all the things. ALL. THE. THINGS. She’s such an amazing health care professional, friend, and human. She’s still accepting new Patients so if you are in the Lexington area and need a PCP I highly recommend Jennifer Sudduth!!!!

Next, I partnered with Sol Fitness and I have started the group fitness classes. I talked about Sol Fitness in my last blog but I have to tell you that this group fitness class that I stepped into is crazy cool. These people show up and show out!!!! Sunny and Mia move through the group encouraging and making sure everyone has good form. The music was great (which helps me forget about the sweating). When I tell y’all that I am in love with this group it is not an exaggeration. I’m currently working out with the group 2 days a week and on my own the other days.

My next step is to tackle nutrition. I have a good grasp on what I need to do but welcome the help of professionals. I’m also tackling nutrition on a tight budget so I will definitely share things that I find that work in a smaller budget.

In the meantime, I appreciate any and all of you who are here and encourage me! Also, look at this cutie!

https://www.chisaintjosephhealth.org

https://solfitnesslex.com/

The Very first Wellness Wednesday!

Welcome to wellness Wednesdays. I’m going to use Wednesdays as a way to document my journey of becoming the best version of myself. At the beginning of the year I told y’all that I was on a journey to just feel better. One of the steps on that journey was to feel better physically and so I began a partnership with Sol Fitness here in Lexington.

The first person that I spoke to when I entered the building was Casey Bayne. If there is anyone who could make anybody feel welcome I am 100% sure it is Casey. She and I chatted about my goals but it was way more than that. She asked perfect questions to get to what I really wanted to experience in my fitness journey. After we chatted, we did a fitness test. It was a baseline test to see where I was at exercise wise. We decided the best thing for me was to do some one on one sessions to build up my confidence and to get some of the movements down. I’m a morning person, so they partnered me with Mia as my trainer. It was just meant to be. Mia is a morning person (like me) and we set out we set our sessions early. She planned a variety of exercises that changed each week and that helped me to stay excited about the workouts.

During my morning sessions, so far, there has been a group workout happening simultaneously in another part of the gym. One of the biggest things I’ve noticed within my interactions with the coaches and and how the other members of the gym interact is that these people are family. There is no judgment happening. It is all support for one another. I’ve also noticed that the staff at the gym are all in immersed in our community. This is a group of people who are out there to support as many people as they can. (Side note:Sunny’s playlist is awesome.)

Now that I have the basics down, I will be starting with a group fitness classes. I’m really excited to take this next step in my journey and I thought it would be a great way to showcase what they do there at Sol Fitness if I shared my experience,each week, with you. Next week I plan on sharing my stats so that I can have some accountability and that is something I’ve never done before. I’ve always struggled with my weight and I’m just at a place in my life where it’s all about feeling better and stronger. So stay tuned and if you want more information about Sol Fitness, you can check them out at https://solfitnesslex.com/

Love y’all bunches

I am truly Blissfully Restored

At the beginning of the year, I decided that I was going to really focus on my health. I knew I wanted to take it slowly and really focus on making long term changes. I had read that article about gentle January, so I spent the first month of the year, just easing into things. Then I was offered the opportunity to experience the blissfully restored retreat at The Spa at Griffin Gate. I learned shortly after agreeing to the experience that Erin short (of the bliss between) was leading the retreat. I had taken one of Erin’s classes previously and I knew that I loved her style of teaching.

I arrived on the first night with really no expectations other than to spend that time with myself, reflecting, moving my body, and working towards relaxation. The retreat was small but mighty. There were three other women on this journey with me. We spent our first evening doing Nidra yoga with Erin and saying hello to one another. We also got the cutest goodie bag full of gifts to help us relax. The yoga session itself was one of the most peaceful sessions I had ever been a part of. Spending that time, reflecting inward, and paying attention to my body was much needed and I slept like a rock that night.

The next morning, when I arrived, there was a beautiful sunrise over the golf course at Griffin Gate and we began our morning with a beautiful yoga session, moving our bodies and listening to what I think was the best playlist ever. After our morning session headed over to the spa and had a treatment. Entering The Spa at Griffin Gate is like entering a completely different world. It is so calming and relaxing with the sounds and the smells that you forget the world outside. I had a 90 minute massage with essential oils and warm compressions. I felt the tension just melt away. After that we had a few hours free. I grabbed a bite of lunch and then came back for the afternoon yoga session.

The afternoon yoga session was one of my favorites. I learned so many things. There are so many more uses for my yoga blocks that I ever imagined, and I have kept that in my practice since. I headed to the hot tub after the afternoon session and then spent some quiet time with a book by the pool. We reconvened at the mansion at Griffin gate that evening for a wine tasting and food pairing.

We had a level three Sommelier treat us to some magnificent wines. The food pairings were so delicious. I really never realized how interesting wine is. Don’t get me wrong I love wine, but now I have a much bigger appreciation and respect for the art of it. We left with a bottle of our favorite choice from the tasting and completely full of laughter from our time together.

The next morning we gathered for one final yoga session and spent that time together, stretching and waking up our bodies, and then we said our goodbyes.

Later on that day, after our final yoga session and I had gotten home, I felt so much lighter. It had boosted my creativity and made my body feel less tense. It was truly a beautiful weekend.

Erin Short can be found at https://www.instagram.com/theblissbetween?igsh=MTRmaXRidWp6bTJxMw==

The Spa at Griffen Gate can be found at https://thespaatgriffingate.com/

Romanticizing My life as a Single Mom.

Being a single mom on a budget doesn’t mean sacrificing when it comes to romanticizing your life. In fact, it’s an opportunity to find beauty in simplicity. Let me share some ways that I romanticize my life without breaking the bank .

1. Picnic Perfection:
   Transform ordinary meals into delightful picnics. Head to a local park or your backyard, pack a simple yet delicious meal, and enjoy quality time with your kids. Bring a cozy blanket, some fairy lights, and let the enchantment unfold under the stars. If you are in Lexington, Jacobson park is one of my favorites simply because of the view of the reservoir.
2. DIY Spa Night:
   Pamper yourself without the hefty spa price tag. Create a spa night at home using affordable beauty products. Dim the lights, play soothing music, and indulge in a relaxing bath or facial. It’s a rejuvenating experience that adds a touch of luxury to your routine. Use Pandora to find a relaxing channel or one of the many ambience channels you can find on youtube. You can find them with music or just ambient sounds.
3. Thrift Store Treasures:
   Explore thrift stores for hidden gems that can add charm to your home. Find unique decorations, vintage frames, or mismatched teacups to create an eclectic and personalized space. It’s amazing what treasures can be found on a budget.
4. Nature’s Retreat:
   Discover the beauty in your surroundings by taking nature walks or exploring nearby trails. Nature provides a serene backdrop for meaningful conversations and bonding with your children. Capture the beauty through photography and create a memory scrapbook together. Two of my favorite spots are Raven Run and the UK Arboretum.
5. Book Club Bonanza:
   Join or create a book club with fellow single moms. It’s a fantastic way to share stories, ideas, and laughter. Choose budget-friendly options like borrowing books from the library or opting for digital versions. The intellectual stimulation and social connection make for a fulfilling experience.
6. DIY Home Movie Night:
   Transform your living room into a cozy movie haven. Make popcorn, choose a favorite film, and snuggle up with your kids. It’s a simple yet effective way to create a warm and comforting atmosphere. Bonus: Pick films that inspire and uplift for an added emotional boost. This is one of my favorite activities. We try to theme our snacks and really get into whatever movie we are watching.
7. Community Connection:
   Engage with your local community by attending free events or volunteering together. This not only strengthens your bond with your kids but also provides a sense of belonging. Many communities offer budget-friendly activities, from outdoor concerts to community fairs. During the summer we have so many options for free outdoor movies and local music!

Being a single mom on a budget doesn’t keep me from romanticizing my life. Embrace the simplicity, find joy in the little moments, and create a life filled with love and connection. By exploring these budget-friendly ideas, you’ll not only romanticize your life but also build lasting memories with your children.

Two words that changed my perspective on January.

Normally by now I would have posted my goals for the year. I still have goals for 2024 but as I was gearing up to make my set of resolutions I read two words that changed everything. “Gentle January”.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the newness and fresh start feeling that January 1 brings but who decided we had to go into the new year like we were going to battle? January is usually a cold, bleak month. Most of us have a holiday hangover and ,to be honest, sometimes slow and steady wins the race.

So this year I am easing into January. Getting a jump start on my books to be read list and taking my time with some tasks that will set me up better for the rest of the year.

I wish you all the happiest of New Years. I Hope 2024 is full of joy and laughter for all of you.

Cheers to y’all

2024, Here We Come!

As the Year wraps up faster than you can say, “who put this empty milk carton back in the fridge?”It’s time for us moms to channel our inner Monica Geller and prepare for the next chapter. Let’s dive in to the ultimate mom’s guide on how to conquer the upcoming year, one mess at a time.

1. Declutter like your sanity depends on it:

Start to declutter like you are on a mission to find Atlantis. If you come across toys that make mysterious noses at 3am, toss them. Your future self will thank you.

2. Master the Art of Time Travel (or just Time Management):

Grab a planner bigger than your kids Christmas wishlist (my preference) or one on you phone and jot down play dates, school events, and that mysterious thing called “me Time”. Bonus points if you can find a planner that magically adds extra hours to your day.

3. Survival of the Snackiest:

Stock up on snacks like you are preparing for the apocalypse. Goldfish, fruit snacks, the ever elusive last piece of chocolate. You never know when you will need to bribe small humans or grab a snack for everyone as you are heading off to one of the million activities your kids are involved in .

4.Become a Multitasking Maestro:

Hone your multitasking skills to Olympic levels. Folding laundry while refereeing a sibling dispute and planning the weekly grocery list? You got this. Bonus points if you can do it without spilling coffee on your last clean shirt.

5.Embrace “Mom Brain” Moments:

Accept that “mom brain” is a real thing and just roll with it. If you find yourself putting the car keys in the refrigerator or calling your child by the dog’s name, just blame it on your supercharged multitasking brain.

6.Plan for Spontaneity (Yes, You Can Do Both):

Schedule moments of spontaneity because, let’s face it, even spontaneity needs planning when you’re a mom. Surprise ice cream outings and impromptu dance parties in the living room should be penciled into your calendar.

7.Invest in a Good Coffee Maker (You’ll Thank Yourself Later):

Consider a coffee maker upgrade, because a mom’s relationship with caffeine is a serious one. Invest in a coffee maker that understands the importance of a strong brew to fuel your daily superhero endeavors.

As we gear up for the next year, remember: You’re not just a mom; you’re a mom on a mission. And with a touch of humor, a dash of caffeine, and a whole lot of love, you’re ready to tackle whatever the upcoming year throws your way. Here’s to another year of momming! 🚀

Goodbye 2023.

Leftovers and Resolutions

Welcome to the week of Holiday Limbo. A time where you’re not quite sure what day it is, your New Year’s resolutions are on hold, and you are spending hours comfortably napping with you dog. It most likely looks something like this…..

Day 1- Post Christmas Coma

You wake up to Chaos. The Christmas tree, which was once perfectly adorned, looks like it has had one too many eggnogs. The main goal of today is to locate the remote buried in the aftermath of gift opening.

Day 2- Iron Chef-Leftovers edition

The fridge now becomes a Science labs. Forget your diet resolution for the New Year. This is the time for a ham and macaroni casserole.

Day 3- The coziest outfit competition

Those lululemons and your new hoodie you got as a gift… Ding ding ding we have a winner.

Day 4- Resolution Procrastination

You consider making your list of resolutions but decide that a Netflix binge is a more immediately achievable goal.

Day 5- The Great “Where are my Keys?” Quest.

You’ve ran out of milk and the leftovers are long gone so you must go out, but your keys are no where to be found. hint… They are in the pocket of the pants you wore to Christmas Eve dinner.

Day 6- The Social Media Showdown.

You have scrolled through everyones endless photos of Christmas trees and perfect gingerbread house creations. You vow that next year you will show everyone who is the most festive.

Day 7- Last minute resolutions.

In a panic you scribble down a list of resolutions on the back of a holiday card that incudes vaque promises of “drink more water” and consider going to the gym. Right after you finish the rest of the Christmas cookies, of course.

And Just like that the curtain falls on the week between Christmas and New Years- A comedy of leftovers, misplaced keys, and procrastinated resolutions. Cheers to embracing the chaos and rolling into the New Year with a belly full of cookies and a heart full of laughter.

Cheers to you and yours.