2021, FINALLY!

Y’all. I know that a magical solution did not drop at 12:01am January 1, 2021 but there is something completely refreshing about a new year. A new start. A fresh page. Ah, it brings me joy. I am very hopeful for the upcoming year and I’ve decided on setting some different types of goals this year. I thought I would share 3 of them with you.

  1. I’m working on letting Go.

I am a planner. I am almost always five minutes early. I am full of anxiety if I do not have my hand in what is going on around me. This has to stop. Aidan is leaving this year and so I need to be ready to relinquish my percieved control ( because we all know we aren’t really in control). I have some books that I will be diving into and some mindfulness exercises that I will be practicing. So fingers crossed. (you should pray for both Aidan and Marc in this situation.)

2.I want to be able to do the splits by the end of the year.

Yes, you read that correctly. Is it random? yep. Does it make any sense? nope. But hey, why not? I’ve spent so many years writing down on the usual suspects when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions. This year I decided to do something a little different. So if you walk by my office and see me stretching, just mind your own business.

3. I want to go into Martine’s bakery and have a full conversation, in French, with her by the end of this year.

I’ve been working on my French but I really haven’t been diligent. I truly want to enrich my life with some different things this year. I love French culture and the language is truly beautiful. I’ll still be using the duolingo app, but I also be implementing some old school study habits like flash cards and listening to French movies.

So there you have it. Three of my goals for the year. Let me know what goals you have set for yourself for the upcoming year!

October Goals

October kicks off my favorite time of year. From the moment October 1st arrives I am here for all things fall, minus the pumpkin spice lattes… I prefer chai tea this time of year. (Shocking, I know.) I always love setting monthly goals and I wanted to share my October goals with you.

  1. Camp with my kids

This is the time of year that Camping is appropriate for me. It’s nice and cool and the leaves are the most beautiful. That being said, its pretty hard to find a campsite right now. We may have to settle for just a good day hike at the gorge.

2. Purge the house.

Oh, how the times have flown by. Cazlin is done with dolls. Part of this is her age, the other part is that she now finds dolls “creepy”. The amount of American Girl Doll goods that I packed and stored away made me sad. With Christmas on the Horizon it is probably in the best interest of the house to get rid of more things.

3. Halloween Movie Mania

I want to start a new tradition with my kids this year. A family friendly Halloween movie marathon. Complete with popcorn and candy.

4. To stop hitting Snooze in the morning.

I’ve picked up the bad habit of hitting snooze at least twice in the morning. With Cazlin going across town to do her Virtual learning, I really need to stop this. I’ll be placing my phone across the room. I may even actually purchase a sunrise clock. I’ll let you know how it goes.

5. Begin Christmas shopping

I can hear some of you groaning right now, but I’m all about planning ahead and I enjoy planning way more than the average person. In all seriousness it allows me to slow down(if you even believe that’s possible) and enjoy the season.

So there you have it. My October Goals. Sweet and Simple. Hope Y’all are taking care of each other and enjoying the change of seasons that God has given us.

My Top 10 Halloween Movies for Scaredy Cats!

Happy October, loves! I am a self-proclaimed Fall Fanatic and the weather, here in Kentucky, has been amazing. A few of my favorite Instagram accounts are in full fall mode and I’ve been secretly eating candy corn. (I don’t care if you judge my candy preferences). That all being said, I am not a scary movie girl. I think the last horror movie I saw was The Blair Witch Project (and I was forced). I know I am not alone in my Scaredy Cat ways, so I thought I would list my top 10 not so spooky Halloween movies/shows for you!

10. The Nightmare Before Christmas.

This is one of those movies that I have grown to appreciate. It hasn’t always been on my Halloween watch list. But over the years it has creeped in. It isn’t my number one pick but It always gets air time.

9.The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown.

My kids will never know the anticipation of waiting for seasonal shows to air. All the Charlie Brown Specials have a place in my heart.

8. Beetlejuice

Beetlejuice is one of my all time favorite movies. Michael Keaton is such an incredibly versatile actor. (he’s really the only batman that I recognize. Judge me if you will ) This movie has so many great moments.

7.Haunted Honeymoon

When you know, you know. This is the craziest, most ridiculous movie ever, but who can resist Gene Wilder, Gilda Radner, and Dom DeLuise(in drag).

6. The Worst Witch

Let’s face it, before Harry Potter there was Mildred Hubble. 4th Grade Amanda thought she was Mildred Hubble. I adored this movie as a child. I was convinced that there would be a place for me at Miss Cackle’s international Academy for Witches.

5. Transylvania 6-5000

Listen, I know y’all know that I have a thing for Jeff Goldblum. And while the Fly may be “scarier” I prefer my Jeff in Human form.

4. Ghostbusters

Man, the 80’s were good. While I barely remember any other of the Ghostbuster movies, the first one was legendary. And let’s face it we all think of this movie when we are eating marshmallows.

3. The Haunted Mansion

Not only is it one of my favorite rides at Disney World, but it is also a great family friendly Halloween movie.

2. Practical Magic

Oh my love of practical Magic. Side note, My Aidan is named after Aidan Quinn Who is in this movie.

1. Hocus Pocus

We all know that Hocus Pocus holds the number one spot in my heart. Cazlin and I even had t-shirts made to wear this time of year.

I hope you all are enjoying the changing of seasons as much as I am. Please feel free to share your favorite Halloween Movies with me!

This Gift of Time.

I’ve sat down several times, this week, to write. I was going to write about school in the fall. Then I was going to write about the feeling of constantly of being in limbo. Then I thought about writing a sort of single mom’s guide to staying organized. All of those felt fake in the wake of this week. You see, this week, the man who means the most to me lost his father. My heart hurts for him and it has set my mind in a million directions.

I’ve thought about my father. He’s been gone 6years. I’ve thought about how much grief changes over time. I’ve thought about my great-grandmother, who I adored so much, and how I smile every time a memory of her pops in. I’ve thought about the legacy we leave to our kids, but most of all I’ve thought about the hurt my boyfriend is wrestling with. I’m a nurturer and I’m struggling with the best way to be there for him. He is an amazing man. He’s an amazing example of a dad. He is a family man through and through. (dad jokes and all). He has showed up for my kids in ways I had prayed for. He once played at least 100 games of tic tac toe with cazlin. Never tired, and didn’t even let her win, because we all know that builds character. He drops of books and treats to my kids and sometimes they like him better than they like me. How can I be there for someone in a way that shows the amount of love and respect I have for him?

It’s all made me think about the gift of time. How am I currently using this gift? Am I using it to pour love out? Am I using it to allow love in? Am I using it to be kind to people? So much of the world is angry or in turmoil and we all have this gift. Many of us are just wasting it. We are using it to say hateful things to each other. We are using it to look the other way when there are so many things wrong happening around us. We are using it to hide and not help. We are so much better than that.

So as I’ve rolled all these thoughts over and over in my head this week it has strengthened my heart. I refuse to allow my gift of time to be wasted on anything but love. If you are a person of prayer please pray for peace and love for his family. If prayer isn’t your thing then please keep them in your thoughts. I’m thankful for all of you and I am sending my love out your way!

June Book Review.

I challenged myself, back in May, to start reading more. Even though you would think I have had extra time due to quarantine, it really isn’t true. At one time I devoured book after book and  I realize that was before single motherhood and two kiddos, but social media is currently giving me some serious anxiety so I wanted to try to get at least three book in a month and spend a little less time on social media.  June was a success and I wanted to share the three books I enjoyed. 


ginny Oh Ginny Moon. This was my fiction for the month. It was gifted to me from my sweet, book-loving, friend, Dana. It did not disappoint. It tugged every heart string I had. Its about an autistic teenage girl and a journey of a lifetime. Foster care and family are  a huge part of this book. I loved it. Beautiful and funny. 


walkWe read “When to Walk Away” in my Church Women’s Group. It was perfectly timed. I am a recovering People Pleaser and it was a great reminder that you don’t have to keep everyone in your life.

ride And last but not least, Marc and I read “The Ride of a Lifetime”. If you aren’t aware by now, I am a huge Disney fan. Marc and I have been reading a book together each month since January. I recommend that for anyone in a relationship. It has been a lovely experience. Our next book is a Disney themed book as well. The book is geared toward leadership tips, but if you are a Disney fan(in any capacity) you will love this book. 

If you have a little extra time these days, I hope that you pick up one of these books and give them a read. You won’t be disappointed. Hope y’all are staying safe and healthy. Much love!


Self-Care during Self Quarantine.

If someone had told me that I would ever type that title to one of my blogs I would have laughed in their face, but here we are. It’s been a roller coaster of a few weeks and I want to preface this post by saying that I am fully aware that I am in a wonderful position during this crisis. Not only am I working, but I am working from home. I don’t take that for granted. I know that so many people have lost their jobs or their businesses, or still have to work outside the home worrying about what they are coming in contact with. That being said, I’m single momming it with my two kiddos, trying to balance us being in each other space all the time, work, and keeping them going with school work. It can be a bit mentally exhausting.  I gave myself a schedule of things to do for myself. Things that don’t take up too much time and can be squeezed in daily, and things that don’t put a strain on your wallet! I thought I would share them with you in hopes that maybe a few of them would resonate with someone and help make this time a little easier.

Daily Self-Care


Sunday is a long stretch or yoga session. I love yoga. I’m not as consistent with my practice as I’d like to be and I find I do more in the summer that any other time. Lexington has so many lovely instructors who offer free classes in the summer so I find myself heading to those sessions in the warmer months. I do, however, make a point to do at least one good yoga/stretch session on Sunday evening. Your practice doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s but I promise if you fit at least one good stretch session in your schedule you will feel better. I use a great YouTube channel for my practice.


She is a great place to start if you have never practiced before! She has so many options to choose from and a range of times. I know, for me, when I started practicing yoga an hour long session seemed like a daunting task. She has so many beginning choices and shorter sessions.


Monday night is mud mask night. Sometimes I wait until my kids are in the bed and sometimes I traumatize them by hanging out with them with a mud mask on. It’s all about balance. I have a mask that I use regularly. I sometimes find random ones to try out, but my tried and true choice is my charcoal mask from Mary Kay.



Tuesday I take time during the day or evening to listen to a new or one of my favorite Podcasts. I have so many that I love. I usually listen to them in the shower or when I am getting ready, but on Tuesdays I make it a point to sit somewhere with a cup of coffee or tea and  listen intently to one of them.



These are just a snippet. I have so many that I listen to. I love them. I listen to more podcasts than I watch tv. If you have any that you love, please share them with me. I love discovering new ones to enjoy.

Wednesday is a coloring session. I’m sure that sounds crazy to some of you. I don’t care that it does. It is one of my favorite things to do. Sometimes Cazlin and I color together. Sometimes it’s me, a cup of tea, my favorite music, and my coloring pencils.


I have purchased two separate complete books that I have colored. One for each of my children. I colored the entirety of each and they can have them after I am long gone.

Thursday is for meditation. I do have the breathe app on my watch that sends me alerts, several times a day, to make me focus on my breathing and to bring my focus to the present, however, on Thursdays I carve out at least 15 minutes and do a guided meditation from the Headspace app.


The app is free. It gives you several basic meditations. You have the option to purchase deeper meditations if you like. I just use the basic meditations to take a few minutes to body scan and clear my head (which is quite an undertaking.) You can also find guided meditations on YouTube or you can put on some soft music and just spend some time focusing on your breath. Doing this has made me so much more aware  of where I hold my tension and how often I find myself holding my breath.


Friday night is Bath night. I mean the works. I light candles, put on St. Tropez spa in apple music, make a cup of tea or glass of wine (depending on the week.) , pour in some Dr. Teals Lavender Bubble bath, and soak.


This weekly ritual started as a New Year’s resolution in 2018. I may have missed a handful of weekend bath nights since. Cazlin thinks it’s hilarious her response when I start gathering the supplies is “are you going to your spa?”  My response is always, “of course.”

Saturday is for trying something new. I love to cook and since Saturdays I have more time I use the afternoon to try cooking a new dish. I turn on French cooking Radio on pandora, pour a glass of wine, and pick a recipe from my pinterest board. Sometimes it turns out and sometimes it’s an Epic Fail. Either way it is always an enjoyable experience. I love that you can find so many different recipes on Pinterest. Currently, I have been dabbling in French recipes and I’ve also perfected my shrimp and grits.

So these are just a few things I do to bring myself joy every day. I hope that each of you are taking a few moments out of each day to breathe and center yourself. If you are feeling overwhelmed, just know that you aren’t alone. Be kind to yourself, give yourself some grace and know that I am praying for your peace and health. Much love to you all!

My Girls

Well y’all life has been interesting. Dating has been interesting. But one thing that rings true, always, is that I have amazing women in my life. This time of year is hard for the single gal. All these “tokens” of love pop up everywhere you turn. It could easily send someone into a therapy session with Ben and Jerry. However, I  have the cure. Time with your girlfriends. And maybe that one guy you grew up with that you treat like a girlfriend. (y’all have one too, don’t act like you don’t. ) So I’m coming at you this week with a few fun ways you can spend time with the loves of your life.


Host a Chick flick night.

It is so simple. Grab some popcorn, wine, and a spread of your favorite candies and give your gals a couple of John Hughes movies to choose from(we used wine corks to cast our votes) and you have a recipe for an evening of laughter that is hard pressed to beat.



We even had these perfect cookies made by the futile gourmet. Let me just say that some of my dearest friends started out as random Instagram conversations. I sincerely hope this is no different. He is so funny and talented and I could just eat him up. Not to mention these cookies were amazing.


If you would like to reach out to him for orders or  you can find him at www.thefutilegourmet.com 




Attend a workshop.

I’ve lived in Lexington for 20 years. I love the way I still find new things. I love the way it is constantly changing and becoming something new but still holding true to its southern charm. So when I was invited to a workshop at Alexandra Pallos floral design I was so excited. They had a delicious spread from fete boards and mimosas to go around. Alexandra led us through a floral design and we all went home with beautiful arrangements. I love creative workshops like this. It sparks other creative juices almost instantly. I came home from the workshop ready to brighten up my home. I even went and purchased a plant, on purpose. (yes, I hear you gasping.. I named it …. surely I will not kill something I named. I digress).



Thanks to Sarah at www.spaceplaceandsoutherngrace.com for capturing so many beautiful shots. She will be doing Aidan’s senior pictures and I cannot wait to watch her work her magic again!

You can also check out all Alexandra has to offer at www.alexandrapallosfloraleventsky.com

You can follow fete boards on Instagram and order either through DM or email them at feteboards@gmail.com


Galentine’s Brunch

Priyanka hosted the sweetest Galentine’s brunch. Everyone brought something to share and we enjoyed catching up and sharing some of what we had going on. We had such a lovely time. Any time that I get to spend with these women is uplifting.

brunch 3

Kelsey outdid herself with this brunch board.

and there was a ton of great food. but Kelsey made the most beautiful brunch board. You can find her tutorial for the brunch board at www.kelseydiane.com. 

So get out there with those you adore and celebrate all the love.


Enjoy a few other galentine posts by some of the loveliest lovelies.






Holiday Wrap Up.

Best Holiday Ever… Did anything extravagant happen? No. Did we have a ton of crazy gifts? No. Was it practically stress free and relaxing? YYYYYEEEEEESSSSS. Honestly it was one of the most chill Holiday seasons I’ve ever had, and if you know me you are well aware that chill isn’t one of the words normally used to describe me. Like I had said before, 2019 wasn’t a year that I was telling everyone about. Somewhere before Thanksgiving I made a couple big decisions that I should have tackled a year ago and after that the tides turned.

Thanksgiving was a big weekend. I spent it with my Aunt on actual Thanksgiving Day and then my Mom and siblings the day after. The kids ate til they were full and I watched every possible Hallmark Christmas Movie that I could fit in that weekend.  I did a little shopping with some girlfriends and basically just lounged with my little  family all weekend. Here are some of the highlights.


I need y’all to know that once upon a time I viewed myself as a tall woman. I realize that I am not actually tall by any means, however, standing next to the teenage guys in my family I am as short as a hobbit.


Caz and I made some Mickey Gingerbread Cookies and a frozen palace gingerbread house.



I got to visit with one of the best guys on the planet and our kids got to meet for the first time.



We did our annual Jammie Cocoa Christmas. (we get in our jammies, grab some cocoa. Turn on the Christmas music and head out to look at Christmas lights) This year we turned it into a scavenger hunt. It was our best yet!


The kids had their concerts and recitals. The pic of Caz trying to kiss Aidan is basically their relationship.


We visited Santa. Let me just say that if you don’t visit Santa at Hillenmeyer you are missing out! It is completely worth the wait. You can take your own pics and its like you are in a completely different world, when in fact you are just in the Fresh Market Parking lot.




We saw frozen 2, went to the Southern lights, our elf hung out, and we did our annual Christmas Eve girl’s brunch at the Castle.



Then Christmas day arrived. The kids had a wonderful morning. Aidan got his favorite Irish Shortbread in his stocking. I swear he is like a little old Irishman sometimes.


All in all a perfect Holiday. Full of our little family’s Traditions. So here is to the New Year. I pray that God pours out blessings on each of you!





Goodbye 2019

I love New Years. It’s my second favorite holiday. As a planner there is nothing better than a universal “fresh start” day. I make New Year’s resolutions every year. Some stick, some don’t but at the end of the day the feel of newness and goal setting always gets me going.

I normally don’t spend a lot of time looking back on the year I am leaving, but every book I’ve read and every podcast I’ve listened to has encouraged reflecting on the previous year. So I sat with that for a bit..


2019 isn’t a year that I am sad to see go. I dealt with some heartbreak, anxiety, and depression. However, these last few months the tides have really shifted. You know when you can feel it. You feel a change coming. Well that’s where I am. I’ve sat with my planners, I’ve set my goals, and I’m ready to take on some new challenges and adventures. Even though 2019 wasn’t a banner year for me it had some beautiful moments and I’m always grateful for the things that happen in my life. They are all life lessons and we can either get knocked down by them or learn and grow stronger and better from them.  So I thought I’d Share a few of my Highlights from 2019.


I became more involved in the blogging community and boy do we have one of the best around. I have made some amazing friends in this community.




My oldest turned 16!!!!! Y’all, he is the best kid. I mean his room is a mess and I might occasionally have to encourage a shower, but he is so funny, witty and one of the most sincere guys on this planet. I not only love him, but I like him.





Not only, did Aidan turn 16, but he also got baptized. Y’all this picture, that Cody Logan captured, makes my heart explode every time I look at it…



I got a new job and I work  with some incredible people.




Spent a lot of time with these two. Summer went quick since they spent a few weeks with their dad. It felt like school came quickly.



I enjoyed my first NFL game.  I’m a broncos girl, but Julia and I headed up to Indianapolis for a colts game and thoroughly enjoyed it. Oh my, that stadium is aaaammmmaaazzzziiiinnnggg!



This little princess turned 8. She is such an amazing little creature.




This year gave me a lot of clarity. It gave me a few tears. It gave me some life lessons.  But it also gave me new tools. It gave me some really good laughs. Some amazing friends. and it gave the world Baby Yoda. So I’ll call it a win.



Cheers to you and yours for a wonderful 2020







A Free Day! Part 3

So after we had the world’s best Beer at Sig Luscher Brewery, We Hopped back on The Lexington on Tap Tour bus and headed on over to Buffalo Trace Distillery. This was not my first Time to Buffalo Trace. They have family events there every year. We have had the pleasure of doing a great Easter Egg hunt on the grounds. All that being said, I had never had a proper tour of the facility.


Now, brace yourself, I’m about to tell you something that might shock you, since I am a Kentucky Girl. I’m not the biggest fan of bourbon. Truth is, for many years any time that I had candy or drink with bourbon in it, my lips would swell up like a terrible botched collagen injection. So I feared I was allergic to something in bourbon. Turns out it was  just a terrible coincidence of some kind. So it’s only been in the last few years that I have ventured into the realm of bourbon. I will say this, even if you aren’t a fan of bourbon or spirits in general, the history of buffalo trace is interesting enough that you would enjoy one of the many tours they have to offer.


At the end of every tour you get to Sample some of their spirits and they finish it off with a bourbon ball, so drinks and dessert for everyone.


This was our tour guide, Brian. However, after having a Tim at Wise bird and a Tim at Sig Luscher, some of us just called him Tim, as well. He humored us. He was an amazing tour guide and I actually requested him when I went back for one of the other tours, but he was not working that day. One of the best things about the Buffalo Trace tours is that they are entirely FREE! I highly encourage you to check one of the tours out or one of their family events. They do an Easter egg hunt in the Spring and an Evening with Santa during the Holiday Season.


We loaded the Bus and Headed back to Lexington. Let me just say that the folks at Lexington On Tap Tours have it together. I know that there are a few options when it comes to these types of tours, but these folks have relationships with so many of these businesses. Our tour guide was welcomed like an old friend at every stop. And I don’t know if it was her or our driver who made the playlist for the music on the bus, but they can DJ for me anytime.


It was an amazing tour! If you enjoy spending a day with some amazing people and checking out new things that central Kentucky has to offer in the Winery, Cidery, Distillery , and Brewery scene then check them out at http://www.Lexontapbrewerytours.com


Again, huge thanks to Max Event and Design Management for taking the stress of getting all of the good pics off our shoulders. Now if you need me, I’ll be over here, just trying to decide what to do with my next free day.